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Jeff Soul's avatar

Thing is we don’t need these gurus or preachers or any intermediaries between us and divinity. That has been the greatest con.

Well I just wrote about this here: https://awakefree.substack.com/p/spiritual-gurus-trust-yourself

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So, let’s get this straight. Lissa Rankin’s latest post isn’t about the people who were actually harmed. Nope. Predatory abuse gets a token mention, like a footnote no one reads. The real story? How Gabor was mean to her. No shit, Sherlock. Gabor is mean to everybody. That’s literally what he does. And yet somehow, her bruised feelings become the centerpiece of a conversation about decades of abuse and exploitation. Naturally, what we need is a telesummit featuring her and a few wellness celebs to tell us how to process her feelings — victims? Peripheral. Invisible. Completely irrelevant.

Girl. Here’s the script for real bravery: Hey, my industry is fucked up. I’m part of it. I didn’t speak up sooner. I’m really sorry. End of story. No self-congratulations. No victim positioning. No five-thousand-word essay about “healing us” from discovering our spiritual heroes might be predators. Nobody asked for that. And if you think that’s too simple, congratulations — you just proved my point.

And don’t even start with the language. “Healing.” “Divine feminine.” “Trauma expert.” “Integration.” All shiny, polished words for a system that is still whitewashed, patriarchal, and appropriative as hell. Want to sell it as salvation? Go ahead. But calling yourself a whistleblower while centering yourself is literally whitesplaining your way through decades of harm. Hint: centering yourself doesn’t save anyone.

Let’s talk names. Tony Robbins. Deepak Chopra. Rhytmia in Costa Rica. Gabor Maté. I could go on, but you get the picture. These people have been protected by the very system now suddenly posturing about accountability. I’ve spoken directly with women and men harmed by this industry. Threats, lawsuits, silencing tactics — all standard operating procedure. And now? Now it’s brand-safe to “speak up.” That’s the pivot. That’s the moment everyone loves — after it’s safe, after it’s profitable, after the story has momentum.

And let’s be real. Gabor isn’t brilliant. He found a marketable buzzword and built an empire. That’s it. And the industry expects us to process that trauma through panels, telesummits, and long reflective posts about our feelings — while the “healers” maintain the illusion that we’re being guided. No. Stop outsourcing accountability. Stop letting brands sell themselves as salvation. The people harmed? Still invisible. Their suffering? Still secondary.

Here’s the accountability playbook: see abuse, call it out, stop giving platforms to people who harm others emotionally, spiritually, or physically. Loudly. Clearly. No long essays. No circles. No brand-friendly language. Just truth. Say it publicly. Say it repeatedly. Say it until they have no choice but to listen.

Because this industry is built on brokenness. Trauma is profitable. Influencers package it, sell it, and now want to sell healing for the exact trauma they created. And we’re supposed to sit quietly, nod, and thank them for their wisdom? No. That’s not healing. That’s marketing. And if you still don’t get it — broken is profitable. That’s the entire business model.

And if my tone stings? Good. Brutal love is still love. Truth doesn’t need to be polite. Polite silence is part of the problem. At this point, nobody should have the patience for it. The industry needs accountability, not more panels, telesummits, or posts about how you felt when Gabor was mean.

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